## No
It’s not just children who are particularly motivated to do what they’re not supposed to. We can take advantage of that. By Oliver Reichenstein, information architect. He lives and works in Tokyo.
Please *don't* think of a pink elephant! Hard, isn't it? The difficulty lies not so much in the fact that pink elephants are not inconceivable, but rather that commands trigger resistance. Negative commands take effect faster than positive instructions. If I had told you to think of a pink elephant, the pink would have been less intense and the shape less clear.
Negativity provokes, positivity spoils. And that’s not just true for children. Why is that, anyway? People have this annoying tendency to be especially motivated to do exactly what they’re not supposed to do. Don’t eat so much chocolate! Drink less! Don’t be so nervous! We can take advantage of this human weakness through what’s called “reverse psychology” by encouraging people to do what we want by forbidding them to do it. Unfortunately, we can’t fool ourselves so easily. Well, just like our children, we may—consciously or unconsciously—behave in ways that provoke resistance in situations that demand more motivation from us than we can muster through self-discipline. That’s not a smart strategy if you plan to become wiser over time—or at least to appear that way.
True motivation, they say, comes from within. To act from within oneself, one needs a free spirit—a spirit that relies neither on defiance nor on praise nor on the sting of a command to rise above oneself. We act freely when we make decisions with a free mind—that is, free from optimism, free from pessimism, and free from external influences. Emotionless motivation is an ideal. People are never free from influence or external incentives. Emotionless motivation, like any ideal, is a guideline, a long-term goal, something we strive toward without ever having to fully achieve it. When making major decisions, we do well to view every form of influence as mere information rather than an incentive to act. In doing so, we are in urgent need of so-called demotivating negative influences. From this perspective, over time one even becomes grateful when unfairly attacked. For whether the criticism is fair or unfair, the more information we receive, the more confidently we can decide. Nasty attacks and strokes of fate, in particular, can be especially helpful because they make one cautious and wise. There is no easy path to a clearer mind. Positive criticism, fawning praise, flattery, icy words, toxic envy, or seething anger are just as much obstacles as they are motivators. In difficult situations, we should try to set aside all forms of optimism or pessimism and, when making decisions, strip away every external influence to the level of the purest possible information. What am I being told, and why am I being told this? Behind every piece of information lies a motive—and with it, a reason. Those who are able to identify the motive—and thus the underlying reason—behind the information will find ways to use that reason to their own advantage.
The spirit that enables us to make important decisions calmly does not come out of nowhere; it does not operate in the “no” or the “yes,” nor does it operate in the gray area. It arises from grappling with “yes” and “no,” with black and white. After all, it seeks neither thesis nor antithesis; it seeks synthesis. The courage to make the right decision is neither reckless nor cowardly, nor is it a middle ground; it stands above it all, synthetically. Now, the reader may object and say that this is too artificial, too abstract, too religious, too bellicose, too smart-alecky. And they should. Or maybe not.
In any case: I command you: Don’t think about it! Please don’t take a different stance! Take a principled stand against me! Get personal! Insult me! It won’t do you much good. But it will help me take this line of thought further.




