Six speed dating tips for good communication

1. stay relaxed

The resolution in your head "I have to achieve this" is more of a block than a motivating goal. If it's not about difficult negotiations, it's better to focus on the here and now. If our inner attitude is right, everyday conversations will be easier. However, if we think negatively about a situation or our counterpart, it comes across as such. If you see things in a positive and constructive way, you can take a relaxed approach.

2. be present

Everyday tasks run the risk of simply being done "on the side". The quick conversation is focused on content. Short, concise, clear - that's what we've learned. But it is the presence of the dialog partners that shapes the intensity of everyday communication. This is how words really get through and have the desired effect.

3. remain open

Prejudices are limiting. When we meet someone who reminds us of someone else visually, communication is unconsciously influenced negatively or positively by this. But the person we are talking to may not be what we expect. So let's pay attention to differences or look for things that are new, interesting and exciting.

4. take an interest in the other person

As banal as it is simple and yet twice as difficult: listening is a supreme discipline in communication! Because when two people talk to each other, it doesn't mean that they are having a dialog. Very often, so-called double monologues take place - both conversation partners take turns telling their story. But if you listen well, you won't easily talk past each other.

5. smile and be friendly

Without an inner, positive attitude, we won't really be successful on a date or in everyday life. "I'll be there for you personally until 4 p.m." is the same in terms of content, but quite different from "I'll be gone from 4 p.m.". Such small details can add up to a lot, because life basically consists of many small details. Positive behavior from a "friendly person" is reinforced by praise and attention.

6. start with a nice word

If you start off in a bad mood, you are unlikely to get a positive reaction. Experienced speed daters recommend: "Start with praise". Assuming that everyone likes to hear something positive first, let's create this microcosm of a constructive aura and start with a positive word in everyday life. The extra effort of a few kind words is always worth it.* Stefan Häseli as a former cabaret artist and sought-after infotainer, inspires people every day to experience effective communication with fun. His aim as a presenter and keynote speaker is to entertain intelligently. As a coach and trainer for leadership, sales and communication topics, he has been supporting managers in larger organizational units for many years. Thanks to his experience in management and his theater training, he combines both areas in a very effective way. www.atelier-ct.ch and www.stefanhaeseli.ch